I find it difficult to explain why I don’t want to join a ‘group’ or a ‘club’ because there is no simple, easy explanation. I am a sociological thinker and one day, soon, will be a certified sociologist. I don’t need social acceptance or social identity to understand ‘self’. Somehow, I often offend rather than expand my listeners understanding.
I found this article [please click on the ‘Otherness’ link below] while doing some unrelated research and it explains everything perfectly, for those of you who graciously extend offers to join your club or group, and why I must graciously decline. Always with appreciation.